Tuesday, August 20, 2013

Connected, expressed and open-hearted

I have been missing the past few months because I am living my dream of facilitating workshops, connecting deeply with others and sharing all those brilliant people's wisdom that have come before me.  It has been an adjustment; a series of adjustments, permissions and change to accommodate and acclimatize to the new dynamics in my family, my life, my commitments.  Little changes, gentle and consistent, have left me changed.  I am expressed a little more in my life.  I am sharing myself a little more.  With clients and with my family.

My theme this year, my intention this year is encapsulated in the word: Embody.  I wished to embody more of me, more of my life.  A lot of me was latent.  Wishful thinking. Etherised. Not quite solid.  I call it vacating myself.  Because literally, I can be there in body, but my mind would be involved in a whole different story, a whole different me, a whole different life.  Me, vacated.

I held myself in, in fear of possible rejection.  And the fear kept me stuck.

Gently, consistently I have come out of my shell a little more. Workshops. Taking my family to art exhibitions, Andre the Hilarious Hypnotist, coffee shops, chatting more about what is in my head.  Sharing myself.  And the response has been positive.  We laughed at Andre and his hilariously hypnotized volunteers and I felt like me when I took my family to an art expo.  It was fun!  I feel full. And my workshops give me such deep fulfillment that doing scary stuff like writing, choosing, speaking in public, holding groups, asking for money, receiving money, and much more, has become scary stuff that I just do, again and again.  Almost in the background, not the main focus.  I need to do this so I can do that.  And I desire that so much that I just do this, even though its scary. Get it?

It is thanks also to supportive friends and family and to my whole journey towards this point of fuller expression.  Danielle la Porte in her book FireStarter Sessions asks her readers to write down how they would like to feel in their lives.  A crazy dump of descriptive words.  And then to see a pattern emerge and chose only 3 words out of the bunch.  These 3 final words can be set as your daily intention, guiding you when you make decisions.  Mine are : Connected, Expressed and Open-hearted.  I have written them in my diary and when I need to commit to something, I ask myself : Will this help me to feel connected, expressed and open-hearted?  Its really works!  It brings clarity.  And clarity brings ease and decisiveness to me.  Check her out on this video talking about her book: 


  1. Thank you for sharing!! Love the honesty and lightness....sons xxx

  2. oh Donna, this could be really helpful to me too. thanks so much for sharing.